Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Think Before You Talk: Do Not Let Anger Control You

Aristotle once said, “anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” I agree.

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Pastor Derek Bignall shares words of encouragement with an audience at NCU recently 

In fact, the Bible, in James 1: 19-20, discourages us from befriending anger, “my dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

Many have said that anger is one letter short of danger. When we find ourselves in the high-powered sports car of anger we may find it difficult to avoid driving in the lane of irrationality. As a result accidents happen, lives may be lost; friendships may die, and hearts may be broken. Words, once spoken in anger can never be withdrawn. The damage done is often irreparable. It is little wonder that Mark Twain opined, “anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Do not make anger a bosom friend. Walk away. A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. Proverbs 29:11 (New International Version).

Listen to the angel within thee. There are times when we think that "getting things off our chest" is the best way to solve a problem. However, this is not always true. Sometimes, a soft answer is just what is needed to extinguish the fury of others. As one writer puts it. “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” 

According to Ephesians 4:26-31, "in your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.  He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need.  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools. Albert Einstein.