A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger (Proverbs 15 v.1). Oftentimes it is in the heat of an argument that one word ignites the fire. The fire created can sometimes be fatal. People may get burned. Some may be lucky enough to live and tell about it. But like any devastating event there is a calm ambience with my many “what ifs” floating around. So how can you prevent this wild fire from negatively affecting your life?
Gentleness will often disarm the most furious rage. People disagree all the time. We all have different opinions; however it is the response that begets the other. One angry word will always beget another. The disposition of one spirit always begets its own likeness in another: thus kindness produces kindness, and rage produces rage.
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A soft answer turneth away wrath. When someone annoys or insults you, it is only natural to consider retaliation. But this truly solves nothing. Usually it only encourages more trouble. A gentle expression delivered with kindness, tenderness, humility, and submission; can weaken resentments, and break and disperse the storm of wrath minutes before it is released. Body gestures and facial exertions also help to extinguish a blaze. A smile warms the heart. A first glance of this illuminating action by the facial muscles melts the blazing fire from the core. Instead, answer slowly and quietly. Your positive response will achieve positive results.
Grievous words stir up anger. We have not mastered self-control if we do not control what we say. Words can cut and destroy. The author of the book of James recognized this truth when he stated that “even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!” (James 3:5). Self control first begins with our tongue. The Bible asserts that “death and life are in the power of the tongue. So stop and think before you react or speak. If you can control this small but powerful member, you can control the rest of your body.
Wise people have a quiet confidence. Insecure or unstable people feel the need to prove themselves. If you are modest, people may not notice you at first, but they will truly respect you later.
Godly living safeguards your entire life. Evil choices follow the same pattern, but in the opposite direction. Each decision we make to obey God's Word will surely bring a greater sense of order to each of our lives, while the decision to disobey will bring confusion and destruction. The right choices you make reflect your integrity. Obedience brings the greatest safeguard and security.