Monday, 5 November 2012

Playing by the Rules.

NCU is a place of learning. That is the primary reason why you are here. Nothing should sabotage that. 

Alas, NCU is also a place of social relationships. We have yet to gather the statistics about the number of students who found their ideal mate during a lecture on Micro Economics, whilst eating barbecue fish at Tai Centre or mingling at one of our many social events.

Dating at the right time and with the right person can be an exhilarating experience. However, like any football or netball match there is real danger if you disregard the rules of the game.  The rules state the game is played on a court or field within certain boundary lines. Games have a time frame and all players must be respectful to each other in order to avoid penalties or foul play.  Likewise, dating on campus has set rules and boundaries, not to spoil your enjoyment, but to serve as a protective mechanism to keep you safe and avoid the fallout of broken hearts and compromised Christian morals and virtues.

We warn our children about good touch and bad touch. So as students we too have to ensure that we know our own personal boundaries whilst dating in order to protect our personal space. We set a personal boundary not just because we don’t want to do something but because we do want to do something else.  In dating you should test your intentions and actions by asking yourselves some questions: “Am I really seeking to do what God wants me to do?” “Am I placing my date’s welfare above my desires, thus loving that person?”

Sex is a natural, God-given desire — a gift intended to give us pleasure and express our intimacy but sex also requires boundaries. God intended sex to be enjoyed between a man and a woman in marriage and not before (Genesis 2:23-25). God is concerned about sexual purity (Deuteronomy 22). And He expects us to honour Him with our bodies. It belongs only to God and to our future spouse (1 Corinthians 6:19; 7:4).

Below is a key to guide you and know when to pull on the brakes before a head on collision.

Sharon Anderson,
Counselling and Psychological Services Centre, Counsellor